Finding Meaning in Being a SAHM

I was a SAHM years ago…well truth be told it was really only 4 years ago that I took the plunge back into the workforce after a 7 year SAHM stint…I had a hard time seeing that my ‘job’ as a mom had meaning.  Not because the work I did seemed unimportant (although cleaning, cooking and diapers can get a little tedious), I knew in my mind that it was, but because I wasn’t contributing to the bank, I wasn’t getting outside appreciation from others, and frankly I remember hearing on more that one occasion that I should be happy that I didn’t have to ‘work’!  What?!  All these things led me to devalue myself as a mother, and the contribution I was selflessly giving to my children and my family.  This led me into feeling guilt that was unnecessary, fear in taking care of myself and overall into frustration that could have been avoided if I had just valued myself and the WORK I was doing a little bit more.

Maybe that is you?  Are you a SAHM who feels unappreciated?  Are you tired of justifying that you really do work?  Are you done with feeling you have no value!  GOOD!   You need to be.  For your own sake and the sake of those around you, look in the mirror and say, “I am worthy.  I have worth as a mom.  I have worth as a woman.  I am good enough just the way I am…for this job and this phase in my life.”  And yes it is true.  YOU ARE.  You can stop relying on the outside world to give you the meaning you need.  You can stop looking to others to satisfy your longing for acceptance.  Acceptance starts within you, and it can start today.  You are uniquely placed as a gift to your family.  You have special talents that only you can give to those around you.  Let your light shine.  Hold your head up and be that proud SAHM who says, “YES, I am a SAHM.  I chose it.  I know it’s important.  And it doesn’t matter what anyone else says or thinks, but I am important!”

If you need a little help with putting yourself back on the priority list sign up for Self-Care for Moms 101!  We’ll cover 5 ways you can start taking better care of you and find the worth that you have inside of you.  Do this because you are worth it.  Yes, even though we can be supermoms, sometimes a little education goes a long way too.  Join me, April O’Leary, life coach, author and Founder of as we take this journey to self-care together.  And while you’re at it check out STOP Reacting 101 too.  You might find this is a good fit for you or someone you know.  Love to you today!  You are great!

April O'Leary

April O’Leary is a Certified Life Coach, Author and Founder of the University of Moms. She happily resides in Florida with her husband and three daughters. For more info visit and

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