I have neglected my blog for a while now, not because I don’t have anything to say, but simply because I don’t make the time to write. So I have decided to make a change for the better. Since I have now gotten the I’s dotted and the t’s crossed with the HappyMomConference.com site and have launched ticket sales I thought it would be fun (for me anyways) to chronicle this journey.
So here is the honest truth. I am totally inspired, totally exhausted, totally grateful and totally overwhelmed with the enormity of what I am taking on. But as Napoleon Hill says in “Think and Grow Rich” (paraphrased from memory) your IDEAS are what make you rich. Not that I am looking for riches, sure it would be great to have them, but I feel blessed already to have been given an IDEA that inspires me.
This work keeps me up at night. It is all I talk about during the day. It is all I can think about. I picture you coming to the conference and me hugging you as you walk in. A sigh of relief from hundreds of moms, needing a break, and it has finally come in the form of this conference. This time is meant solely to focus on who THEY are, not their role of ‘mommy,’ but allowing the person that is them to emerge once more.
I know this, because I was there not 20 years ago (ok I would have only been 15 then, but you get the point). I was in that overwhelmed, frustrated, trapped and exhausted state just 6 years ago. My youngest is 6, so that is about when I crashed. Taking little to no time for yourself for 6 years can take a toll let me tell you! But it was that damn guilt that had me trapped….
I do digress. So I remember wishing I could have a surgery of some sort just so I could have a night alone. That is called desperation my friends. And it doesn’t have to be this way, but I made it that way for me. So this is why THIS conference is my gift to moms everywhere. It is my way of saying, “Please, don’t wish for a surgery. That wouldn’t be fun now, would it? Here is a great excuse to get away. I have created the ‘excuse’ you are looking for because it’s not just being selfish you want to get away, is it? No. You want to better yourself. Listen to inspiring speakers. Refill your tank. So YOU can BE a better mom.”
When I was at my wit’s end I suffered day-to-day struggles with my emotions, often taking them out on my kids. I’m not proud of that. But it’s the honest to goodness truth. So if you’re yelling, slow down and take a look. If you’re frustrated or tired, slow down and take a look. If you feel resentment building in your marriage, slow down and take a look.
Look at what? Is the reason you’re yelling, frustrated, tired or resentful because you just haven’t done a good job at taking care of yourself. Truly. When was the last time you got a legitimate break? I don’t mean an hour to grocery shop alone. I mean a night off. A weekend off. It is NOT selfish…I would argue that it is NECESSARY.
Ask yourself, “Is it reasonable that someone could operate in any job 24/7 indefinitely and not get worn-out?” Hello. Of course not! So why do we expect that of ourselves? Stop arguing with me, I have been there, I had to overcome the guilt too, and I had to realize the guilt was unhealthy because I was not doing anything wrong when I took some time away.
So now I am breathing easier. I am happier. I am less stressed. Yes, I am still super busy, but I am busy because I choose to be busy doing the things I love. And hoping that you will do the same too.
If you want to read a little bit about some moms who also have taken a break, check out this recent article from the Wall Street Journal. It’s all about a “Mommy Business Trip” and how moms are jumping on board with this idea that they need a break too.
So if any of this has resonated with you, join me at the Happy Mom Conference. I’d love to give you a hug and welcome you to the tribe of moms who are happy because they know that to serve others gladly they first have to fill their tank!
Here’s the article and thanks to Diana Towsley for finding it for me. I loved it! The Mommy Business Trip