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Conscious Parenting: Raising the next generation to new heights!

Photo Credit:  Matt, Flickr.com

Photo Credit: Matt, Flickr.com

Like so many other people, I have a dream.  This dream of mine began small…under my own roof in fact.  But, the more I learn and invest myself into the process and potential of this concept, the greater my desire to be an instrumental part of seeing the dream become a reality not only for my home,  but for homes throughout THE WORLD.  I firmly believe it can be done, I just wonder if it will be a reality during my lifetime…

What is this dream you ask?

My dream, along with a growing number of others, is the ability to experience what the world would be like to live in if the next generation of children were raised by parents determined to do so consciously.

How can those of us who are working toward conscious parenting build the momentum of this dream?

For starters it means regularly sharing the idea with other parents.  For example, I recently knew three babies born so I bought a copy of The Conscious Parent for each family as a gift.  The recipients will need to be open to take a risk and an  initiative to evaluate their parenting with an open mind.  They would ideally begin to understand much of our child rearing skill comes from what we have experienced in our own upbringing.  While our parents may have loved us very, very much, they were not raised in a way that honored their authentic being, therefore they were unable to raise us in a way that honored our inner self.

Instead, previous generations of people have been raised to believe it is the parent who carries the power, deserves all of the respect, and whom should be honored and obeyed without question.  As a result of many generations raised with those ideals in mind, there have been untold amounts of emotional wounds passed down.  If we choose to continue to ignore,  or to approach parenting the same way our elders did, those emotions will be given to our own children.  When we neglect to tend to our own emotional baggage and uncover, layer by layer, our own authentic life we are doing not only ourselves, but the next generation, a disservice.

And the emotional burden and unauthentic living will never end.

Our parents, grandparents, great-grandparents and all parents before them did what they knew to do to raise children.  We now have a more enlightened answer and path.  

When we know better, we must do better.  Therein lies the hope in the conscious parenting movement.

Having the courage to look at the relationship we have with ourselves, and with our children.  To look in the past long enough to recognize where we need to change in the present to positively affect future outcome. Easy, no.  Worthwhile, yes!

Because when we can look at our child as a teacher, rather than as our student, and we comprehend they were brought into the world to serve a purpose which can only be revealed through our attuned presence with them in tandem our encouragement, support, and unconditional love.  The power and practice of this idea will help make the dream of conscious parenting a reality!

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Finding Meaning in Being a SAHM

I was a SAHM years ago…well truth be told it was really only 4 years ago that I took the plunge back into the workforce after a 7 year SAHM stint…I had a hard time seeing that my ‘job’ as a mom had meaning.  Not because the work I did seemed unimportant (although cleaning, cooking and diapers can get a little tedious), I knew in my mind that it was, but because I wasn’t contributing to the bank, I wasn’t getting outside appreciation from others, and frankly I remember hearing on more that one occasion that I should be happy that I didn’t have to ‘work’!  What?!  All these things led me to devalue myself as a mother, and the contribution I was selflessly giving to my children and my family.  This led me into feeling guilt that was unnecessary, fear in taking care of myself and overall into frustration that could have been avoided if I had just valued myself and the WORK I was doing a little bit more.

Maybe that is you?  Are you a SAHM who feels unappreciated?  Are you tired of justifying that you really do work?  Are you done with feeling you have no value!  GOOD!   You need to be.  For your own sake and the sake of those around you, look in the mirror and say, “I am worthy.  I have worth as a mom.  I have worth as a woman.  I am good enough just the way I am…for this job and this phase in my life.”  And yes it is true.  YOU ARE.  You can stop relying on the outside world to give you the meaning you need.  You can stop looking to others to satisfy your longing for acceptance.  Acceptance starts within you, and it can start today.  You are uniquely placed as a gift to your family.  You have special talents that only you can give to those around you.  Let your light shine.  Hold your head up and be that proud SAHM who says, “YES, I am a SAHM.  I chose it.  I know it’s important.  And it doesn’t matter what anyone else says or thinks, but I am important!”

If you need a little help with putting yourself back on the priority list sign up for Self-Care for Moms 101!  We’ll cover 5 ways you can start taking better care of you and find the worth that you have inside of you.  Do this because you are worth it.  Yes, even though we can be supermoms, sometimes a little education goes a long way too.  Join me, April O’Leary, life coach, author and Founder of UofMoms.com as we take this journey to self-care together.  And while you’re at it check out STOP Reacting 101 too.  You might find this is a good fit for you or someone you know.  Love to you today!  You are great!

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