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How to Make Fake Poop

Ok this isn’t my typical post, but if you have spent any time with me at all you’d know I’m quite the joker.  As my mother tells me I really do have a junior high sense of humor.  One year (I was probably in the 6th grade) I covered the toilet in our house with clear Karo corn syurp.  My mom sat in it and got her butt stuck to the toilet…or at least she played along that she did!

I remember fondly her voice yelling, “APRIL…!!!”  That was a great day.

So when my girls, in typical Eichhorn fashion (my dad and his brothers are quite the pranksters too), were on YouTube they came across this ‘fake poop’ video and we were all laughing hysterically.  But I would have never guessed what would happen next.

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I left last evening to take a quick ride up to the airport to pick my mother up from her trip out to visit my sister in CA and upon my return I was being videoed by my middle daughter Molly.  Strange.

Then in the words of Clement Moore in his famous poem ‘Twas the Night Before Christmas’,

When what to my gleaming eyes should appear,
but poops lying ’round the house oh so clear!

The funny part of it was when I threw one in the garbage and Monty, our dog, came right up and ate it out!  With April Fool’s Day right around the corner you might want to whip up a batch and trick your kids…

Here are a few very appropriate ideas:

1) Put a poop in their lunch box in a Ziploc bag
2) Leave one lying on their bathroom floor next to the toilet and act surprised (maybe even blame them)
3) Freak out your spouse by leaving one on the toilet seat and act horrified (blame him)!

Why blame them? It just adds to the fun and makes it seem that you are not a part of the disgusting scene…until you bust out laughing!

Here is the video with a simple recipe.  Enjoy!

What are the best memories you have of April Fool’s Day?  What are your best pranks?

Share them below and we can all try them out for some super family fun.  One lucky mom will win an e-copy of Ride the Wave: Journey to Peaceful Living.    That is no joke…

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Moms and Making Money: A Winning Combination

Setting up a green screen….aaaaand ACTION!

I’m super excited to record some videos today with my new green screen setup and I wanted to show you what my living room looks like right now.  One video I have in mind for the future is to show you how to set up a green screen and what to buy.  I got all of this off Amazon for about $100.  Not bad, right?!  But that’s for another day.

Kids are off to school earlier than usual and for Florida it is a dark, cold and dreary day (I know we have nothing on you northerners, but it’s all perspective anyways) so I thought it would be a good day to do it.

Part of what I am recording are new videos for our website here.  In February I’m launching the University of Moms Business School to help you mommies who are in careers or are business owners be more tech savvy.  Let’s just say I have learned A LOT over the past 3.5 years of having my business and people are always asking me how I know how to do all this stuff.  So this was my answer to sharing this knowledge with you. 

7 years ago I launched my first business with Avon for just $10.  I’ll share that story with you in another post.  The great news is that it is still up and running without much effort from me and I make residual income every month, direct deposited to my bank.  Sound great? It is! So if you are a SAHM and you want an online business, like Avon, so you too can make some money from home then this is also for you.  

Whether you already have a business or are thinking you’d like to start one the UofMoms Business School is for you.  We’re going to talk about technology, sales, marketing, branding, developing your skill-set, adding value to your clients and more.  I’m going to feature the best experts around to help you grow your business to the level you want.  I’m also going to add in a monthly business coaching group membership, and launch a private business coaching mentorship program.

Let me know what you need.  I would love to customize a plan for you.

Post your comments below and share with me the things you’d like to see addressed here.  And while you’re at it make sure to subscribe to the University of Moms blog where I’ll be sharing both personal life lessons and business strategies to help you, the busy mom find peace, happiness and success in every area of your life.  Because being a mom and making money is surely a winning combination that will make you smile.

Being a Happy and Successful Mom Just Got Easier!

Much Love, April

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What is Twitter?

Just this past year I have really gotten into Twitter.  See that’s my Twitter profile right there! Come follow me @uofmoms ===>

Why, you might ask did I all of a sudden care about Twitter? When I was trained as a life coach I learned this sneaky little trick that I often do to myself to create my own break-throughs…want to know what it is?  Of course you do!

Make a list of all the things you know would NEVER work to solve your problem..then start trying them.
COACHING TIP: Often the answers to our biggest challenges lie in the areas that we have already discounted as a NEVER WORK solution.  
Let me give you a few examples, yoga could never help me lose weight, counseling would never help my marriage, religion is not for me…I’m just not that type of person.

So for me, in my business, I said one day to myself, “Twitter is so stupid. Who wants to waste their time on that?” and the light bulb went on and I knew that is what I had to do.  Since then I’ve connected with a lot of new people, increased my website traffic and had lots of fun.

What I do know is that if you haven’t seen the success you want in a certain area you need to try something new and different.  For me, in my business, that was Twitter.  Could that help you too? I’m betting it would!

TECH TALK ON TWITTER NEXT WEDNESDAY, JAN 22nd
Time: 9-10:30am
Where: Calistoga on Airport and Vanderbilt Beach Rd
Cost: Nothing
RSVP:  Email apriloleary at gmail dot com
Come learn how you can use Twitter for your business, what you need to know to keep up with your kids, and more.  You’ll learn about Twitter parties (yes I won a free pair of $100 shoes by participating in one), and hashtags and how to create a personal profile.  In just 90 minutes you’ll be a Twitter Whiz…well maybe not a whiz, but you’ll definitely know more than you did before.

Not in the area? Email me apriloleary at gmail dot com now and let me know you’re interested for a virtual Twitter Tutorial and I’ll make it happen if we get at least 10 to join in.

Whether you run a business and want to use Twitter to brand your company and broadcast your message to a wider audience or whether you are curious about how to use Twitter to get your news quickly, connect with other people just like you and win free stuff, you must jump in on this!

Much love to you today and always!  Remember when you are with the University of Moms….being a happy mom just got easier!

April O’Leary
Certified Life Coach
Founder of UofMoms.com
Proud Mother of 3

Author of Ride the Wave: Journey to Peaceful Living
Co-Author of Focus on You: Your Needs Matter Too!
www.apriloleary.com and www.uofmoms.com

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How To Live Your Dreams Today

BYyauylIIAAEyTPOne of my favorite authors is Mike Dooley and this powerful quote is from his best selling book “Leveraging the Universe”.  Here’s my take on it.

It’s easy, too easy, to get stuck in the mindset of ‘when this happens…then this will happen.’  When they’re out of diapers, then we’ll start saving some money.  When they get past the terrible twos, then we’ll have a little more peace at home.  When they get into school, then it will be easier.  

But have you noticed that somehow that point in the future that you were dreaming would come just projects further into the future.  All it is, is a trap.  I can’t say I have ever heard any parent say, “Gosh now that little Bobby is out of diapers we are raking in the cash!”  Why? Because little Bobby now has toddler music class, eats more food and has more expensive clothing needs.  

Don’t wait until THEN arrives…it won’t.  

What is it that you really want to do? Open a business? Become a writer? Go back to school? Start a yoga studio? Homeschool your children? What would you need to do to make that happen?  Just step 1….

All you have to do is start with Step 1.  Not tomorrow.  Today.  Start today to live the dream you have for the future.  

Want to save some money?  Start with $5 this week in a shoe box.  Want to find more peace in your home?  Try implementing a sticker chart, or read a parenting book, seek out the help of a professional.  Want to make life easier, less rushed and more enjoyable? Then ask yourself what unnecessary tasks am I doing today that are sucking the life out of me and dump them.  

Stop rushing.  Stop cultivating unhealthy friendships.  Stop thinking ‘someday it will be different’.  It won’t.  Start by creating a dream list and then breaking it down into doable bite sized pieces.  Time order them.  What comes first?  What’s next?  Then what?  This is how you will reach your dream life.  One little step at a time.  Prioritize and focus.

So start with you.  Start today.  

===>Leave me a comment and let me know what your dream is and how you are going to take action to make it happen in the present.  If I can help you in any way, let me know that too.

For me? I am going to start focusing on reaching as many moms as possible through my blog, on social media and through the press so that they can learn how to be happy, live the lives they have always dreamt would be theirs and then raise their kids in an empowered and positive way not through words…but through actions.  Love you all!  April  

April O’Leary is a recognized life and business coach, author and speaker and the Founder of the University of Moms.  Join her today at UofMoms.com to get access to the free download library full of amazing classes, interviews and workbooks to help you be the mom you have always wanted to be.  You’ll also receive our Signature Video e-Course “Find Time for You and Be Happier Too” as our gift to you.

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Self-Care tips for Moms

I shared some info with my friends over at Just Between Friends that I thought you’d like to see.  It comes from experience and a lot of trial and error.  More error than success frankly.  So although I am not always a perfect example, I am learning each day how to make sure I take care of me, so that I can take care of others to a greater degree.

Click here and you’ll see my TOP 3 TIPS for moms on how to take better care of yourself, and find more happiness in the busy-ness of life.

If you enjoy it please sign up to get our FREE 4-lesson Video Course called “Find Time For You And Be Happier Too!” these tips and more are shared along with exercises to help you uncover areas where you are getting stuck and how you can overcome some of these common self-care sabotage mindsets.

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Lots of love!!

 April O’Leary, Life Coach
Founder of the University of Moms
Creator of the Happy Mom Conference

Author of Ride the Wave and Focus on You
Proud mother of 3 girls

 

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Great Summer Parenting Resources

Have you ever found a great deal and had to share it with your friends?  My mom once found a great denim-ish skirt at Dillard’s for me, which honestly looked really ugly on the hanger, but she convinced me to try it on because it was only $7.  So I bought it and to this day I still have it in my closet.  Someday if you see me in it, you’ll know my secret!So what’s the point of telling you all this?  Today I want to do that for you.  Below I have compiled a list of some great freebies and deals from friends of mine who I respect and who also have a lot to offer that I thought you should know about.  I have put them in numbered format and by category so you can quickly see what they are about.  Each has a link, and I encourage you to take some time to click through and visit!

====>PARENTING

1) Lori Petro, is a great friend and has a wonderful parenting site called Teach-Through-Love.  She teaches parents how to connect with their child in a meaningful way rather than focusing on punitive discipline.  I have learned so much from her and she has just launched a Family Peace Project which opens registration on 6/7. Click here for more details.

2) Dr. Shefali Tsabary, author of The Conscious Parent is another great parenting resource.  Her book was a hugely transformational part of my own journey as parent and opened me up to a brand new way of thinking.  PLUS she was the one who introduced me to Lori.  She has 2 new 30-minute videos talks on conscious parenting that she gave at the Dali Lama center for Peace and Education.  I highly recommend you take the time to watch them.  To watch the videos Click Here.

====>HEALTHY LIVING

3)  If you want to boost your health this summer you have to jump on board with Casey Sollock.  She offers an amazing 10-day Eat Clean Challenge, which I took last summer.  It helped me to weed out much of the junk and curb my addiction to caffeine.  It’s just $19 for the whole challenge and it’s virtual with a very interactive Facebook group for support and daily emails with her warm encouragement and teaching for the day.  The next one starts July 8th.  Click here for more info.

4)  Pilates from the comfort of your home? Yes!  Via Skype or Google+ you can work with Denise who will give you a workout you’ll never forget…mainly because your abs will be so sore in places you never knew you had muscles….in a good way I mean!  She is offering a free 20-minute trial.  Grab yours today.  Click here and scroll down to register.  I just did mine last week and Denise is such a gem!

====>INSPIRATIONAL RESOURCES

5)  My mentor David Essel has an amazing XM radio show on Channel 246 that airs live every Saturday night from 6-9pm EST/ 3-6pm PST.  I know for many of us moms listening in live at that time is not really possible, but the great news is you can listen to the David Essel Alive show archives where you’ll have access to the best self-help experts in the world today free.  I listen in through my phone connected to my bluetooth during the week when I have longer drives.  It’s great brain food and I’ve learned a lot.  To access the show archives online Click Here and to listen to the podcasts on iTunes Click Here.

6)  We have just launched the University of Moms Finishing School. It’s a page full of free downloadable talks, interviews and workbooks done by me on everything from noticing triggers, to managing frustration, to creating peace at-home and more.  There is no restriction, just free and shareable resources.  To see our Finishing School page Click Here.

I will make sure to always keep you in the loop and share the people I feel you need to know…no strings attached.  I do not get any sort of referral fee, I just believe in them and want to personally introduce you to the best there is out there on the web in addition to sharing my knowledge with you too.  If you have a resource you want to share with me, I’d love to check it out.  Please reply to this email and give me the link.

Have a super day and may these resources help you to welcome summer with a smile!

 April O’Leary, Life Coach
Founder of the University of Moms
Creator of the Happy Mom Conference

Author of Ride the Wave and Focus on You
Proud mother of 3 girls

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Free Happy Mom Resources

Finishing School

I am happy to share the new University of Moms Finishing School: Free Download page with you!  In it you’ll find lots of audio lessons, workbooks I’ve created over time, interviews and articles to help you on your journey towards greater peace and happiness as a mom.  There is no better place to be than when you are content with where you are at in life, you are in control of your emotions and you have enough time for you.  Trust me!

All of this material was learned the hard way, in the trenches being an at-home mother of 3 kids under the age of 5…by doing what didn’t work first.  As I got some outside help in the form of 8 weeks of therapy back in 2008 I learned that it is not selfish to take care of yourself.  Why hadn’t anyone taught me that before?!

So use these lessons as a lighthouse shining you towards the bay of peace.  You may be experiencing some rough waters now, but if you put what you learn into practice the waters will slowly calm down, your ride will become easier and the sun will start shining.  Enjoy the ride!

To get the whole library of goodies Click Here.  No email required, just my gift to you!

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Super Moms and Prescription Pills

I just came across this article which I thought might be informative for you too.  Let me ask you a question…in the busy-ness of life, in your effort to be ‘supermom’, have you ever considered taking prescription pills to help you manage it all?  Are you currently taking pills to help you get through the day?  If so you are not alone.  And there is help for you.

If you are stuck, if you need help breaking the cycle, if you want to simply slow life down and enjoy it more, you can.  Seek out help.   Add in a bit of emotional management.  Give yourself permission to stop focusing on everyone else for just a minute and take care of you!  It is not selfish.  There is no race that you will win running at break-neck speed and frankly no one wins when we, as moms, are stressed-out, strung-out and maxed-out.

This is why I started UofMoms.com and what the University of Moms is here to do.  We are here to help you overcome self-defeating patterns of behavior that are hurting you, hurting your children and causing stress in your relationships.  How?  By giving you permission to take care of you.  By teaching you new things in all areas.  By connecting with other mom-experts who want to share their knowledge with you too.  And the best thing is membership is free!  Join now at www.uofmoms.com.

Motherhood is simply another phase of life…and with it comes a whole new branch of knowledge we need to succeed (and often don’t get).  So welcome to UofMoms.com where we are here to support you, celebrate you and encourage you to be the best mom you can be.

Come and learn, stay and grow, watch the garden of your life bloom into something truly beautiful because you took the time to plant the right seeds, water them daily and weed out what wasn’t working for you.  To get a free seminar called “Create Calm At-Home in 2 Simple Steps” text the word ‘calm’ to the number 69302 now.  I look forward to growing with you!  April O’Leary, Life Coach and Founder of UofMoms.com

Moms popping pills to be better parents

From: http://www.kvue.com/news/175406561.html
by SHELLY SLATER / WFAA
Posted on October 23, 2012 at 9:14 AM

Some mothers who are trying to “do it all” are turning to pills to get through the day.

The Centers for Disease Control says deaths from prescription drug abuse have quadrupled since 1999. Now some moms are shopping doctors… looking for prescriptions.

Heather Moore juggles a lot: A three-year-old, a one-year-old, a full-time job, and a husband who’s away in the Army.

Right after her first baby, she noticed she just couldn’t keep up.

“I felt like the worst mother ever,” Moore said. “I would get up, go somewhere, and I’d be like, ‘Crap… I forgot a bottle.’ ‘I forgot the diaper bag.’ I was like, ‘What is wrong with me? Do other mothers do this?”

Moore, like most moms, wants to give her children the best. For that she needed a change.

She wanted medication. She went to a doctor hoping to receive a prescription for Adderall.

“I told him I had heard about Adderall… can I try it? It was that easy,” she said.

Moore described symptoms of ADHD and passed a test proving otherwise she’s drug-free as part of her diagnosis.

And now, after years of legal use, the change is drastic.

“I am a supermom, that is all there is to it,” she said. “I am on my game for my kids.”

Dr. Stephen Garrison with the Caron Texas drug and rehabilitation center — who is not working with Moore — said it only takes one month to become addicted to prescription pills. What follows is a lifetime of recovery.

He said doctors can be too quick to write prescriptions, and moms are shopping around until they get what they want.

“They learn very quickly from people using; they share notes; they compare, figure out what works, and use it again and again,” Dr. Garrison said.

A new database lets doctors search for all patient prescriptions to avoid repeats. But Dr. Garrison says that is often skipped, because it takes so much paperwork.

Taking drugs, he says, sets a new normal.

For Moore, that means only four hours of sleep a night… and then another pill.

“I shake all the time; I can’t sleep at night,” she said. “If I wasn’t on it, I would be running around like a chicken with my head cut off.”

Moore said her use is based on need, not recreational use, although the street value of her pills comes at $10 to $15 per tablet.

“Adderall is a hot commodity around here,” Moore said. “I can’t tell you how many moms I have had come up to me and say, ‘Can I buy some Adderall off of you?'”

And it’s not just Adderall. Some mothers choose Xanax to take the edge off.

“Once the stimulant wears off, they feel not normal and nervous, and they go use again,” Dr. Garrison said.

“I love it,” Heather Moore said. “I love the way it makes me feel. I have energy. I’m in a great mood all the time. I love it.”

But Moore conceded that she is likely addicted to the medication.

“It is something I could live without, but I don’t want to.”

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Stop Reacting, Mom!

If you were on our free call yesterday for Fun Friday you’ll remember me mentioning about RFA’s, which are Red Flag Alerts.  Here is my own personal story with RFA’s that I thought you might enjoy reading.

I am not endorsing Christianity or any other religion, but this was my experience, which is a common message taught to women whether through religion, culture or media.  Luckily that’s changing somewhat today, but I think you’ll get the point from my specific story and be able to apply it to your unique situation.   Especially if you find you’re frequently putting your needs behind everyone else’s.

When I was a child I was taught a song in Sunday School that went something like this:

Jesus and others and you
What a wonderful way to spell joy
Jesus and others and you
in the life of each girl and each boy
“J” is for Jesus for He has first place,
“O” is for others you meet face to face,
“Y” is for you, in whatever you do,
Put your self third and spell JOY.

I remember patiently raising my hand silently hoping to get picked to hold one of the J-O-Y cardboard squares at the front of the class.  I learned to put myself last at a very early age, and that is what I believed for years.  Indeed I even found a blog that still promotes this way of thinking, (which is how I found the lyrics to that song of old as well).

But fast forward a few years.  Being a young mother with three children and this mentality became a problem for me.  Why?  Because the endless list of the needs of others never ends.  Whether it’s tying shoes, making sippy cups, changing diapers, cleaning up messes, making dinner or doing laundry, these “O”thers take over.  And the result for me became anger, frustration and resentment.

Now what is a woman to do who is supposed to be experiencing JOY by serving others, and isn’t?  For one thing I felt guilty.  Not only were the negative emotions confusing to me they were not okay in my opinion.  So I tried harder.  I felt like a terrible person for not feeling joy in serving others.  And the cycle of anger, frustration, guilt and resentment continued.

This describes many women, and certainly describes what I experienced as an at-home mother those years ago.  I was giving and doing until there was nothing left.  I was breathing out in service to others in  but was not breathing in to serve myself.  If you’ve ever traveled by airplane you know the gig, “Put your mask on first…then help others.”  Well it makes sense in the physical world, but why doesn’t it make sense in the emotional, non-physical world?  Hello, it does!

So this is where the shift comes in.  I call these emotional bumps in the road RFA which simply means a Red Flags Alert.  The story of Mary and Martha illustrates it beautifully.  Here is the quick story for those of you who aren’t familiar with it from the New Testament book of Luke, Chapter 10.

38 As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. 39 She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. 40 But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!”  41 “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, 42 but few things are needed—or indeed only one.[a] Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”

I hated this story because I was Martha.  I couldn’t understand why Mary was getting the validation and here was Martha working her tail off to help serve the crowd.  Martha was serving others, and Mary was not.  Martha was busy, helping, serving to make sure everyone else’s needs were met.  Mary was sitting down taking it all in.

What had Mary chosen that Martha had not?  Mary chose to take care of herself first.  She wasn’t worried about everyone else.  She wasn’t putting everyone else before her.  If that would have been the ‘right’ way to do things certainly Jesus would have said, “Yes, Mary, get up and help your sister Martha,” but He didn’t.

And how do we know Martha had not chosen properly, her emotions were telling her so…she was getting an RFA (remember a “Red Flags Alert”)!   It says she was distracted by all the preparations and shouted out (at Jesus!) “Don’t you care…!”  It says she was worried and upset about many things.  I can picture her rushing around, complaining playing the ‘it’s not fair’ card.  Maybe she was thinking, “Sure, as usual, I invite the crowd in and no one helps me.  No one ever helps me.  I guess I’ll just have to do this all myself.  Mary is so self-centered…look at her just sitting there…while I rush around and make sure everyone else  is ok….Typical!”

How often do we do this to others?  We want people to notice all we’re doing and when they don’t we get upset.  We want others to change, to help us more, but the only one we can change is ourselves.  This is what Martha didn’t understand.  And how you know you have crossed that fine line over from serving into sacrifice is…notice your emotions and see if you are getting an RFA!

So the moral to the story is:

1)  Serving others is noble to the degree you can do it with a happy heart.

2)  Once your emotions become negative or you start to resent others, think life is unfair or feel distracted by all that life has for you to ‘do’ take notice.  This is your RFA!

3)  Make corrections to your RFA by stepping back and taking care of you first.  Service with a sour attitude benefits no one.

So go ahead.  Be Mary and take care of yourself first.  All that others stuff can wait.  That is choosing the better part and it won’t be taken from you.  If this is you won’t you consider taking action and doing something for you today!  If you haven’t already join uofmoms.com FREE and start putting yourself back on the priority list.  🙂

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3 Keys to Cutting Credit Card Debt for Families

Joe Paretta is a coach, author, speaker, and teacher. He earned both a Bachelor’s and a Master’s degree from Hofstra University in New York. Master The Card: Say Goodbye to Credit Card Debt…Forever! is his first book.  But most importantly he is a dad, a family man, and has some wisdom to share with us about how to get out of credit card debt for good.

After overcoming a struggle with personal credit card debt in his life, he decided to share his journey publicly, for which I commend him greatly, and he wrote this book.

I had the privilege of reading Master the Card and I can tell you that if you struggle with overspending, maxing out your cards, paying the monthly minimum or just convenience charging stuff you really don’t need, this is the book for you.  Joe’s advice on how to get out of the addictive habit of credit card spending is practical and relevant.

Join Joe and me on Monday, August 20th at 12pm EST/ 9am PST where he is going to give us 3 Keys to Cutting Credit Card Spending that you can use with your family.  You don’t want to miss this!  CLICK HERE to join in LIVE.  If you haven’t joined yet as a FREE member to the University of Moms you can do so NOW and get access to the recording of this interview along with a whole library of materials you can download to help you on your journey as a mom.

Helping you be the best you can be!  We’re here for you!  All the best, April

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