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How To Live Your Dreams Today

BYyauylIIAAEyTPOne of my favorite authors is Mike Dooley and this powerful quote is from his best selling book “Leveraging the Universe”.  Here’s my take on it.

It’s easy, too easy, to get stuck in the mindset of ‘when this happens…then this will happen.’  When they’re out of diapers, then we’ll start saving some money.  When they get past the terrible twos, then we’ll have a little more peace at home.  When they get into school, then it will be easier.  

But have you noticed that somehow that point in the future that you were dreaming would come just projects further into the future.  All it is, is a trap.  I can’t say I have ever heard any parent say, “Gosh now that little Bobby is out of diapers we are raking in the cash!”  Why? Because little Bobby now has toddler music class, eats more food and has more expensive clothing needs.  

Don’t wait until THEN arrives…it won’t.  

What is it that you really want to do? Open a business? Become a writer? Go back to school? Start a yoga studio? Homeschool your children? What would you need to do to make that happen?  Just step 1….

All you have to do is start with Step 1.  Not tomorrow.  Today.  Start today to live the dream you have for the future.  

Want to save some money?  Start with $5 this week in a shoe box.  Want to find more peace in your home?  Try implementing a sticker chart, or read a parenting book, seek out the help of a professional.  Want to make life easier, less rushed and more enjoyable? Then ask yourself what unnecessary tasks am I doing today that are sucking the life out of me and dump them.  

Stop rushing.  Stop cultivating unhealthy friendships.  Stop thinking ‘someday it will be different’.  It won’t.  Start by creating a dream list and then breaking it down into doable bite sized pieces.  Time order them.  What comes first?  What’s next?  Then what?  This is how you will reach your dream life.  One little step at a time.  Prioritize and focus.

So start with you.  Start today.  

===>Leave me a comment and let me know what your dream is and how you are going to take action to make it happen in the present.  If I can help you in any way, let me know that too.

For me? I am going to start focusing on reaching as many moms as possible through my blog, on social media and through the press so that they can learn how to be happy, live the lives they have always dreamt would be theirs and then raise their kids in an empowered and positive way not through words…but through actions.  Love you all!  April  

April O’Leary is a recognized life and business coach, author and speaker and the Founder of the University of Moms.  Join her today at UofMoms.com to get access to the free download library full of amazing classes, interviews and workbooks to help you be the mom you have always wanted to be.  You’ll also receive our Signature Video e-Course “Find Time for You and Be Happier Too” as our gift to you.

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2 Simple Questions for Every Mom

One of the major problems I often see when I talk with parents is that they forget that it is okay to have personal boundaries. Just because you are a parent does not mean you need to set aside who you are, all your needs and focus excessively on your children. 

Although the starting point is a desire to show your children the most love you can and be the most attentive and best parent you can be the end result as you can guess is often a child who is whiny, does not take no for an answer and does not respect you and you end up exhausted, frustrated and angry. 

This then makes you lose your confidence and self-esteem as a parent because your initial intention (the desire to be the best parent you can be) is not matching up with who you are in the world. This can be devastating.

Ride the Wave Front CoverThe good news is there are simple corrections that I have seen to work time and time again (which I share in my book). Think of it as a balance. Open communication, compassion and caring are extremely important but if you are feeling frequently frustrated or are not enjoying parenting or your children take a look at one of two areas. 

1) Are you taking good care of yourself? 

2) Are you setting reasonable boundaries for your children that support your needs as well? 

When I say reasonable boundaries, you have to determine what is reasonable for you. For example, I don’t like it when my children pull on my arm to try to drag me somewhere and show me something. So that is a personal boundary. If they do this, I immediately say, “Excuse me. I don’t like when you pull on my arm and I will not come when you do that. You can kindly ask me.”

For others that might not be an issue. But figure out what bothers you personally and then be ok with setting boundaries to protect your own well-being. That is reasonable! 

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2 Free Mother’s Day Gifts For YOU!

Happy Mother’s Day!  I come bearing gifts to show you how much I value you as a member of our community of moms.  I don’t take it lightly that you take the time to read these blog posts.  I think it is wonderful that you make it a priority to be happy and learn whatever you can so that you can be the best mom you can be and this is my small way of saying, “You’re Awesome!”

The University of Moms Sticker can be yours free!1)  The first gift is a University of Moms auto sticker and a personal hand-written note of encouragement.  Look how cute it is!  I have one on my car (you can see my hand taking that picture) and many other moms do too.  Join the revolution!  To claim yours please email me at april at apriloleary dot com with your mailing address and I will stick one in the mail to you on Monday with a personal note of encouragement.  How often does that happen?  REAL MAIL!  Yes, real handwritten mail…just for you…and feel free to share something about you, your family, your successes your struggles.  I would be happy to respond!
Get your digital copy of Ride the Wave today.  Expires at midnight.2) The second gift is a digital copy of my book Ride the Wave: Journey to Peaceful Living.  In it I describe my challenges as a mother of 3 girls under the age of 5, how I fell into frustration, anger and resentment and how I was able to turn a marriage on the brink of divorce around.  Yes, we are still happily married today.  You can do it too, if you follow my simple system which I have outlined for you in the book.  To get your copy of Ride the Wave: Journey to Peaceful Living (value $8.99 on Kindle) CLICK HERE. Offer expires at midnight tonight.

“What can you do for me?” you asked.  That’s so sweet of you to think of me…I really appreciate it.  If you could share this post with 3 mommy friends with a personal note about the University of Moms and invite them to join us at UofMoms.com that would be a wonderful gift..not just for me, but for them too!

You are also invited to download the University of Moms App!  
If you don’t already have it on your phone I hate to say it, but you are missing out!  We have moms in our community from the US, Canada, New Zealand, Europe and as far as Pakistan!  It’s a free download and you can get it in the iTunes and Google Play stores.  On it you’ll have access to our courses, books, daily motivational messages, other free material and more.  We’re here to support you every step of the way!
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And if you haven’t checked it out yet, I have put up a ton of free audio classes, interviews, downloadable workbooks and more.  No registration required.  Click the “Finishing School” image to see them.  No email registration required.  I am lowering all barriers to entry just so you can be the best mom you can be.  🙂  Why? Because that’s my way.
I wanted to make sure you saw this one-minute video if you missed it.  Christian did an excellent job catching the feeling of the top ten reasons you HAVE TO come to the Happy Mom Conference.  For more details and EARLY BIRD registration visit HappyMomConference.com.  


If you have been detailed enough to read all the way to the end you’ve just found one more way I’d love to support you.  Schedule a free 30-minute coaching consultation.  I’d be happy to hear from you.  Much love to you today and always!  Have a wonderful Mother’s Day.  Treat yourself kindly and embrace the woman you are!  Remember when you are with the University of Moms….being a happy mom just got easier!  Love you all!  April

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A Milestone Reached: Reflections from a Happy Mom

Yesterday I heard the dentist say, “Your daughter has no more baby teeth to lose.”  The tears hid inside my eyes and my heart, while happy, sank a bit too.  “Where has the time gone?” I thought quietly to myself.  I’ve been a mom for 11+ years now and although the time has flown there are times that I think back to and wish I could somehow get a ‘re-do’.  Although my degree in Elementary Education and my years of experience with kids before that prepared me for the developmental stages of childhood (and gave me a solid repertoire of activities to keep kids entertained), nothing prepared me for the emotional stages I would go through.  I went from a blissful new mom to just a few short years (and a few kids) later a mom who was overwhelmed, stressed-out and angry.  The moments of frustration that I took out on my girls linger as a sour memory.

For all that we gain with being a mom, hugs and smiles, hands to hold and artwork to cherish, oftentimes we lose something too.  We lose a good night’s sleep.  We lose our privacy.  We lose our autonomy to go where we want and do what we want, even if only for a season.  But sometimes we lose something even more valuable…OURSELVES.  Yes, it is a common trap moms fall into.  Under the umbrella of ‘doing what is best for everyone else,’ we sacrifice ourselves to such a degree, that we turn around and wonder where our carefree days went.  We wonder why we feel clouded over with negativity.  We feel desperate to be a better mom, we WANT to be better, but we don’t know what we can do differently.

So as I walked out of the dentist’s office, my three girls hopping into the minivan, listening to the laughter on the way home, I smiled.  Why?  Because things can change!  I am no longer angry or frustrated or overwhelmed anymore.  I don’t feel guilty taking a break, saying ‘no’, stepping back and slowing down to do what I need to to do take care of myself first.  But this didn’t happen overnight.  In fact, I had to learn the hard way what NOT TO DO in order to come out on the other side smiling.  So if you want to know what you can do to be a happier mom, if you want to enjoy your kids more, if you want to find yourself again and not look back years from now with that regret, “I wish I’d yelled less.  I wish I had smiled more.  I wish I wasn’t so stressed out.” then sign up now for our free 4 lesson Video e-Course where you will learn how to “Find more time for you and be happier too.”

Remember when mom is happy…everyone is happy too!  Now is the time to put yourself back on the priority list and I will show you how.  Sign up below.


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